Quotes About Validation

“Someone can tell you all your life that you're inferior, but it doesn't matter until you accept it and allow for validation. Once validation takes place, it's then that the colonial malaise sets in like smallpox.”

— M.B. Dallocchio

“When you need something to be true, you will look for patterns; you connect the dots like the stars of a constellation. Your brain abhors disorder. You see faces in clouds and demons in bonfires. Those who claim the powers of divination hijack these natural human tendencies. They know they can depend on you to use subjective validation in the moment and confirmation bias afterward.”

— David McRaney

“To engage with criticism, is on some level, a validation of that which otherwise would go unnoticed.”

— Jordan Carl Curtis

“I realized, listening to the silences that fell sometimes in my interview groups, that there are things that are sayable and unsayable about motherhood today. It is permissable, for example, to talk a lot about guilt, but not a lot about ambition. You can talk a lot about sex (or its lack) but not about the feelings that are keeping women from sleeping with their husbands. You can talk about society's lack of "appreciation" of mother's and the need for more social validation
but not about policy that might actually make life better. You cannot really challenge the American culture of rugged individualism.”

— Judith Warner

“This isn't about validation, this is about having someone's hand to hold when I'm walking through the creepy forest. I really thought of that tonight. Life is sometimes one great big creepy forest, and as much as I love you, we are both getting to the age where each other just isn't enough.”

— Davee Jones

“We grow up going to school, where you get a gold star, you get the A-plus," she says. "At work you're constantly being evaluated. Then you become a homemaker and suddenly nobody is giving you feedback. Suddenly no one is paying attention to what you're doing. Blogging is a way to get this validation from other people. You put up a recipe and people go, 'Hey, that's a great photograph.'" Clearly blogs can give emotional value to housework. But if a blogger is actually making money from a blog, even a little bit of money, it cane make the blog even more validating.”

— Emily Matchar

“Philosopher has given a rational, objectively demonstrable, scientific answer to the question of why man needs a code of values. So long as that question remained unanswered, no rational, scientific, objective code of ethics could be discovered or defined. The greatest of all philosophers, Aristotle, did not regard ethics as an exact science; he based his ethical system on observations of what the noble and wise men of his time chose to do, leaving unanswered the questions of: why they chose to do it and why he evaluated them as noble and wise. Most philosophers took the existence of ethics for granted, as the given, as a historical fact, and were not concerned with discovering its metaphysical cause or objective validation. Many of them attempted to break the traditional monopoly of mysticism in the field of ethics and, allegedly, to define a rational, scientific, nonreligious morality. But their attempts consisted of trying to justify them on social grounds,”

— Ayn Rand

“Validation is for parking.”

— Austin Kleon

“When you align individually high-performing people around the idea that they are collectively underdogs, you tap into the cohesive gel that brings early adopters together. We created an enemy for us to rebel against (this belief that our approach was "impossible"), which is one of the fastest ways to unite people around a common goal. And with each new person who joined our volunteer army, we received both the validation and the skills necessary to prove that we could carve a different path from those who came before us.”

— Adam Braun

“He was waiting for something from me. Acknowledgement. Validation. Commiseration, perhaps. I couldn't even look at him because I was afraid of feeling any more than I already did.”

— Tiffanie DeBartolo

“What difference does it make?" he says. "People can think whatever they like. I don't desire their validation."
"So you don't mind," I ask him, "that people judge you so harshly?"
"I have no one to impress," he says. "No one who cares about what happens to me. I'm not in the business of making friends, love. My job is to lead an army, and it's the only thing I'm good at. No one," he says, "would be proud of the things I've accomplished. My mother doesn't even know me anymore. My father thinks I'm weak and pathetic. My soldiers want me dead. The world is going to hell. And the conversations I have with you are the longest I've ever had.”

— Tahereh Mafi

“And second, once we are caught in the pattern of creating ourselves from cultural blueprints, it becomes a primary way of receiving validation. We become unknowingly bound up in a need to please the cultural father
the man holding the brush
and live up to his images of what a woman should be and do. We're rewarded when we do; life gets difficult when we don't.”

— Sue Monk Kidd

“Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself”

— Greg Behrendt

“When we are looking for validation, that will never satisfy us. When we are looking for affection, for love, a little bit of that will be enough to be complete.”

— Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu

“I think I started out because I was desperate for approval and acceptance and praise. Some actors never break away from that. They're after that validation their whole life.”

— Judge Reinhold

“I don't live my life seeking validation from people on social media.”

— Ricki-Lee Coulter

“In 2007, I had on-paper success. I got to go to that Aspen comedy festival, which was pretty exclusive, I guess. Then I did Carson Daly. That was enough validation.”

— Kyle Kinane

“She said 'a tattoo is a badge of validation'.
But the truth of the matter is far more revealing.
It's a permanent reminder of a temporary feeling.”

— Jimmy Buffett

“I'm secure in who I am. I don't need the validation of those that would say, you have to be a certain thing in order to be accepted. I'm comfortable going against the grain if I need to.”

— J. C. Watts

“Grief is a form of validation; it says the wound mattered. It mattered. You mattered. That's not the way life was supposed to go.”

— John Eldredge

“The great divide lies between men as lovers and men as consumers. Does he seek her out, long for her, because really he yearns for her to meet some need in his life-a need for validation (she makes him feel like a man), or mercy, or simply sexual gratification? That man is a Consumer, as my friend Craig calls him. The lover, on the other hand, wants to fight for her-he wants to protect her, make her life better, wants to fill her heart in every way he can.”

— John Eldredge

“The biggest place I look for validation is from my mother. That's the little girl in me that will never grow up.”

— Naomi Watts

“I work hard for the audience. It's entertainment. I don't need validation.”

— Denzel Washington

“I know the money is important, but, actually, the validation of your career that prizes give is what you really want. But the money is fabulous, too.”

— Jim Crace

“The logic of validation allows us to move between the two limits of dogmatism and skepticism.”

— Paul Ricoeur

“I own the responsibility for determining my own value. I do not expect anyone else to make me feel valued and important. That must come from inside me. Once I know my value is set and absolute, I can accept love and validation from others, and believe it.”

— Kimberly Giles

“As long as we are seeking our worth in anything and everything but the gospel of God's grace, we will keep seeking and keep wearing ourselves out in the process. But in Christ's finished work is ultimate and eternal validation. And ultimate and eternal rest.”

— Tullian Tchividjian

“Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that's a need of the human condition - to look for affection or recognition or validation.”

— Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu

“Now is a time where there are so many social networks, such need for validation ... you don't have to be a star or a politician to want to have likes or dislikes. Now there is a disease of popularity in the whole society.”

— Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu

“The amateur allows his worth and identity to be defined by others. The amateur craves third-party validation. The amateur is tyrannized by his imagined conception of what is expected of him. He is imprisoned by what he believes he ought to think, how he ought to look, what he ought to do, and who he ought to be.”

— Steven Pressfield

“Very few artists are as independent as I am mentally, physically, spiritually and technically. I sit in my home studio and record things by myself. I don't need to get anybody's approval or validation.”

— Sophie B. Hawkins

“When I was 13, I told Henry Winkler I wanted to act. He said, Do it and don't let anyone stand in your way. His validation just made it all the more true. I haven't stopped thanking him since.”

— Marlee Matlin

“An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken!”

— Mandy Hale

“To a certain extent, Ruef's and Burt's research is a validation of the celebrated "strength of weak ties" argument first proposed by Mark Granovetter,”

— Steven Johnson

“We all exist in similar systems that mirror and reproduce the same American culture for the most part. What Oscar Wilde said about the lucky author who has a non-literary day job no longer holds, if it ever did. Artists seek validation as much as they seek money. The creation and invention of culture and canon is where most of the trouble lies.”

— Fady Joudah

“As an actor, one is so appreciative when one is working. I think I am lucky that I have the opportunity to work having that total dependence on an external validation.”

— Andrew Garfield

“Being published is not a necessary validation or a path everyone wants to take with their work. Writing-and finishing-a novel is a great thing in itself, whether or not the book is published, or becomes widely-read or not.”

— Garth Nix

“If self-validation were our most significant societal measure - we would give trophies to ourselves.”

— Mary Anne Radmacher

“I think a lot of America turned to art and culture after Sept. 11. I know the sales of bibles went shooting up, but so did the sales of poetry. I think in a crisis one looks to one's culture, partially to give validation to why one would want that culture to survive.”

— Art Spiegelman

“Some seek fame cause they need validation,
Some say hating is confused admiration.”

— Nas

“This Golden Globe nomination is sweet validation for the years of hard work it took to bring Coraline to life using stop-motion animation with the greatest crew of animators, artists, and technicians I've ever been privileged to work with. I share this nomination with all of them and we all share our thanks to the Hollywood Foreign Press.”

— Henry Selick

“You're treated as though you're just a piece of meat, and you're there for consumption by men. I feel like the common thing is men feeling entitled to treat you how they want to treat you. You never feel as though you have a right to the space. And so that's the theme behind most of the posters - "I'm not outside for your entertainment" and "I'm not seeking your validation."”

— Tatyana Fazlalizadeh

“A majority vote is not an epistemological validation of an idea. Voting is merely a proper political device
within a strictly, constitutionall y delimited sphere of action
for choosing the practical means of implementing a society's basic principles. But those principles are not determined by vote.”

— Ayn Rand

“I've talked to nearly 30,000, people on this show, and all 30,000, had one thing in common: They all wanted validation ... I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire.”

— Oprah Winfrey

“Release old concepts and energies that keep you in self-punishment patterns. Release old stories and create from a place of love and self-validation. You are worth it!”

— Gautama Buddha

“What makes people weak? Their need for validation and recognition, their need to feel important. Don't get caught in this trap.”

— Paulo Coelho

“I had turned personal validation into my primary source of meaning and value, so that without it I was miserable and depressed.”

— Tullian Tchividjian

“You may occasionally be hurt by the sort of cavalier cruelty of commentary if you go into online forums, so there's definitely a maturity about not seeking validation from everyone, every single time.”

— Guillermo Del Toro

“A child who's been injured by a parent waits her whole life for some acknowledgment of the wrong that's been done, some validation from him that her pain is real, that he's sorry and will make amends. The child will wait forever, unable to move forward, unable to forgive, without someone to acknowledge the past. In that powerlessness comes a terrible rage.”

— Lisa Unger

“I entered a songwriting competition, I didn't win, and one of the judges on the panel was an A&R man at a record label that had no other acts and I signed to them. We sent my demo out to five people and David Kahne got back to me that day, and said I think you're amazing I want to start with you tomorrow. He was like my Harvard reach school, I couldn't believe it. I was really excited. It was the first time anyone of any importance said I was good and I ran with that validation for a long time.”

— Lana Del Rey