Meg Jay Quotes

Enjoy the top 57 famous quotes, sayings and quotations by Meg Jay.

Meg Jay Quotes

Many twentysomethings assume life will come together quickly after thirty, and maybe it will. But it is still going to be a different life. We imagine that if nothing happens in our twenties then everything is still possible in our thirties. We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for later—but not making choices is a choice all the same.
— Meg Jay —

Twentysomethings who don't feel anxious and incompetent at work are usually overconfident or underemployed.

— Meg Jay

I wasn't scared of losing my past. i was scared of losing my future.

— Meg Jay

The one thing I have learned is that you can't think your way through life. The only way to figure out what to do is to do - something.

— Meg Jay

Uncertainty makes people anxious, and distraction is the twenty-first century opiate of the masses.

— Meg Jay

Doing something later is not automatically the same as doing something better

— Meg Jay

The Ben Franklin Effect: If weak ties do favors for us, they start to like us. Then they become even more likely to grant us additional favors in the future. Franklin decided that if he wanted to get someone in his side, he ought to ask for a favor. And he did.

— Meg Jay

Confidence doesn't come from the inside out. It moves from the outside in. People feel less anxious
and more confident
on the inside when they can point to things they have done well on the outside. Fake confidence comes from stuffing our self-doubt. Empty confidence comes from parental platitudes on our lunch hour. Real confidence comes from mastery experiences, which are actual, lived moments of success, especially when things seem difficult. Whether we are talking about love or work, the confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. There is no other way.

— Meg Jay

The lottery question might get you thinking about what you would do if talent and money didn't matter. But they do. The question twentysomethings need to ask themselves is what they would do with their lives if they didn't win the lottery.

— Meg Jay

Ian pretended that not knowing what to do was the hard part when, somewhere inside, I think he knew that making a choice about something is when the real uncertainty begins. The more terrifying uncertainty is wanting something and not knowing how to get it. It is working toward something even though there is no sure thing. When we make choices, we open ourselves up to hard work and failure and heartbreak, so sometimes it feels easier not to know, not to choose, and not to do.

— Meg Jay

If the first step in establishing a professional identity is claiming our interests and talents, then the next step is claiming a story about our interests and talents, a narrative we can take with us to interviews and coffee dates ( ... ) a story that balances complexity and cohesion is frankly, diagnostic.

— Meg Jay

Most twentysomethings yearn for a feeling of community, and they cling to their strong ties to feel more connected. Ironically, being enmeshed with a group can actually enhance feelings of alienation, because we-and our tribe-become insular and detached. Over time, our initial feeling of being part of a group becomes a sense of disconnection with the larger world.

— Meg Jay

The Ben Franklin effect shows that, while attitudes influence behavior, behavior can also shape attitudes. If we do a favor for someone, we come to believe we like that person. This liking leads back to another favor, and so on. A close variant of what is called the foot-in-the-door technique, or the strategy of making small requests before larger ones, the Ben Franklin effect tells us that one favor begets more favors and, over time, small favors beget larger ones.

— Meg Jay

Research shows that our social networks narrow across adulthood, as careers and families become busier and more defined. So-even and especially as we job-hop and move cross-country and change roommates and spend our weekends about town-this is the time to be connecting, not just with the same people having the same conversations about how work is lame or how there are no good men out there, but with those who might see things a little differently. Weak ties are the people who will better your life right now-and again and again in the years to come-if you have the courage to know what you want.

— Meg Jay

There is a certain terror that goes along with saying "My life is up to me." It is scary to realize there's no magic, you can't just wait around, no one can really rescue you, and you have to do something. Not knowing what you want to do with your life-or not at least having some ideas about what to do next-is a defense against that terror. It is a resistance to admitting that the possibilities are not endless. It is a way of pretending that now doesn't matter. Being confused about choices is nothing more than hoping that maybe there is a way to get through life without taking charge. Rather than take charge,

— Meg Jay

Before I was in my forties. If you're still doing this

— Meg Jay

Meg Jay Quotes Pictures

Want to see more pictures of Meg Jay quotes? Click on image of Meg Jay quotes to view full size.

Meg Jay Quotes Pictures 1
Meg Jay Quotes Pictures 2
Meg Jay Quotes Pictures 3
Meg Jay Quotes Pictures 4